A viewer writes: Abel, when inviting a woman into your bedroom, would you agree that the bedroom pictures must go, but pictures in other rooms are okay?

Yes - the bedroom pictures have to go. That part's not even debatable. You don't invite a woman into an intimate space where another woman is watching from the wall. That's just basic awareness.

But here's what I want you to notice about the question itself: why are we only thinking about the bedroom?

If you're only worried about her comfort in the bedroom, you're only thinking about one thing - and it's not her. You're thinking about the part of the house where you want something from her.

What about the kitchen, where she's sitting across from you eating dinner? What about the couch, where you're trying to watch a movie together and she's glancing at a photo on the shelf every twenty minutes? What about the hallway she walks through every time she comes in the door?

A woman doesn't just exist in your bedroom. And if she's someone worth bringing home, she deserves to feel welcome in the whole house - not just the room you need her to be comfortable in.

So yes, the bedroom pictures go. But if that's where your thinking stops, you might want to ask yourself why.